Please note, due to Coronavirus only emergency baptisms can take place in hospitals or at home during this time. This will be subject to strict hygienicprecautions and physical distancing as far as possible.
We will update this page as soon as the guidance from the Church of England changes.
What is Baptism?
Baptism is our entry into the community of the Christian Church. Parents and Godparents make promises on behalf of the child. Water is poured three times over the child's head, in the name of the Father, Son and Holy Spirit; the sign of the cross is made on the forehead as the child is anointed with the Holy Spirit; and a lighted candle is given to the parents to signify the light of Christ and a new light born into the world.
Baptism at St Mary's
Baptism takes place during the Parish Eucharist at 9.30 on a Sunday morning. To have your child baptised you need to live within the parish or be on the church Electoral Roll. To enquire about Baptism please contact the Parish Office on 020 8744 2693. Once a date has been fixed, a lay visitor will visit the parents to discuss the Baptism.
Adult Baptism is usually conducted within the sacrament of Confirmation.
Please note, due to the Coronavirus there can be no Weddings in Church buildings until further notice. We will update this page as soon as this changes.
St Mary’s welcomes couples who wish to be married and hold a wedding at the Church.
Under law a couple may be married in a Church of England church if either of the couple:
has at any time lived in the parish for a period of at least 6 months; or
was baptised in the parish concerned; or
was prepared for Confirmation in the parish; or
has at any time regularly gone to normal church services in the parish church for a period of at least 6 months; or
one of the couple’s parents, at any time after their son or daughter was born, has either lived in the parish for a period of at least 6 months or has regularly gone to normal church services in the parish church for a period of at least 6 months; or
one of the couple’s parents or grandparents was married in the parish; or
is on the Electoral Role of the parish.
If you cannot demonstrate any of the above connections or have previously been married and the marriage ended in divorce, please be encouraged to contact the Parish Office on 020 8744 2693 to make an appointment with one of the clergy to discuss the wedding options open to you.
Church Buildings are now closed until further notice following the Prime Minister's announcement on Monday 23rd March 2020.
The Church of England has shared these guidelines for funerals during these troubled times:
Funerals can only take place at the Crematorium or at the graveside. Ashes may still be laid to rest in St Mary's Garden of Remembrance in a Committal Ceremony with immediate family members present who are practicing social distancing. Please contact Rev'd Jeff Hopkins and the Parish Office for further details.
Only immediate family members can attend Crematorium - that is, spouse/partner, parents/carers, brothers/sisters and children (and partners). South West Middlesex have limited the attendant numbers to 10 as of Wednesday 25th March, and all mourners must sit 2 metres apart within the Chapel.
Immediate family members of the deceased are allowed to travel to the funeral but must maintain social distancing between households.
Please call Father Jeff and the Parish Office and leave a message with a return phone number to arrange a funeral.
For more information, see the South-West Middlesex Crematorium board's guidelines below:
Due to the outbreak of the Coronavirus and in accordance with Government and ICCM recommendations, we are taking the following measures to minimise public contact with the Crematorium staff.
• Attendants at funerals will be limited to 10 as of Wednesday 25th March 2020 and all mourners to sit 2 metres apart within the chapel
• Only immediate members of family to attend i.e. Spouse/Partner Parents/carers, Brothers/Sisters, Children (and partners)
• No family members to carry the coffin
• No personal items to placed on the coffin
• Chapel attendants will not over-see any services with more than 10 attendees
• The main reception desk is not being manned
• Only 1 representative from a Funeral Director to collect cremated remains - 1 collection per day at a time agreed by the Crematorium
• All papers to be deposited in the Comments & Opinions box in the memorial hall before 16.30 p.m. when the automatic main gates shut
• No witness strewing of ashes until further notice
• Service books and hymnals have been removed from the chapels
• Families service sheets will not be handled by the Crematorium Staff and must be removed from the chapels after each service
• Webcasts are available, but unfortunately this facility is currently only available in our Ogden Chapel
• Saturday services are still available until further notice
• Please advise all your personnel that they are not permitted to stay within the private areas of the Crematorium i.e. back office, vestry’s – there is a coffee and water machine in the Pavilion building.
The above measures are to ensure that the Crematorium can continue to operate and offer funeral services in a safe manner. Please advise your staff, families and Ministers/Celebrants of these changes so they are kept up to date of the current situation.
When the Church is open again, funerals take the following form:
St Mary's seeks to help the families and friends of those who have died to find an opportunity to join together in grief and in hope to celebrate the life of the one who has died and to commend their soul to God.
This can take the form of Requiem (Eucharist) or a funeral service. If the service takes place in the church, ashes can be laid to rest in the Garden of Remembrance.
For more information contact the Parish Office on 020 8744 2693.